Monthly Archives: October 2012

To be Spurned in Love

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This is the worst feeling any woman can ever have in her life.When a woman loves she loves completely and gives her all to her partner or husband, but when she is spurned in love, then it is the worst feeling she can ever have. When she loves a person she cannot help herself, as it is the most natural feeling she can have for that person, but if that person does not love her back and spurns her every loving action with indifference and hatred, then the woman faces the most difficult aspect of her life.

  When you love someone then that feeling of love comes from within your heart but, if for some reason you are not able to get that feeling of love for someone, who you know, loves you, then even you are helpless as you cannot evoke that feeling on your own.That feeling of love for another person comes or does not come, if it comes, then all is well but, if it does not come then the person who loves you will be in a living hell, as you don’t have a feeling of love for that person.

    This is what I call being spurned in love.When two people love each other then life is wonderful for both of them as they care for each other and they will certainly make a good couple if they get married and have a family.But in a marriage if the man loves the woman and the woman does not feel that love for the man then both the partners life is a hell.The one who loves is constantly spurned by the other partner who does not love him or her and this affects both the partners, as one partner cannot stop loving  the other and because the other partner cannot love him or her back even he feels sad as no matter what he cannot love him or her.

  Now you will ask why does this happen and why can’t a person fall in love with a person who loves you so much. Well the reason for this maybe that this person might have fallen in love with another person before marriage and no matter what, after marriage he is not able to love his loving wife. I do believe in this adage that love can happen many times over but, if that person had loved that person with all his heart, then he can never fall in love again.He can have compassion or a good feeling for his present partner but he never love that person as much as he did the other person.

   Love is natural feeling and it is there or not there and to be spurned in love is a very depressing and helpless feeling. A woman cannot do anything if her husband does not love her, although due to co-existence she does get a feeling of sympathy and compassion from her partner, but sadly she will never get the divine feeling of love from her husband.

  It is a very suffocating and frustrating feeling any woman can have, she is helpless as she cannot put love for herself in her husband’s heart, no matter what and when she does all she can to win her husband’s heart and she faces failure then she loses hope not  only in herself but in life in general. Then the depressing repercussions of this basic feeling between two people affects both the people very badly.It affects their family life and there is constant feeling of indifference and hostility between the two as one loves the other but the other does not love him back.

   The relationship is lop-sided as there no healthy love between the two and due to this there is constant sense of irritation and hostility.The person who does not love his partner constantly compares his partner to his previous love and because of this reason he is never able to accept her as she is.When such a situation arises then both the people suffer a lot as the wife is unable to look or behave like her husband’s previous love and so both the husband and wife feel depressed and lost.

   When two people start living with each other in a loveless marriage then, not only them but, the family, if there are kids, also suffer a lot, as the wife is never given her place in her husband’s heart and she feels deprived and neglected and so she in turn is not able to give that much love to her kids.It is but natural if a woman gets love, only then she will be able to give that love to the people around her, but if she is constantly spurned and neglected then, she feels lost and lonely and she fails to understand as to where is her fault and why she has to face all this neglect and loneliness.

  Sadly there is no solution to this problem as the person who does not love, will never be able to love and the wife will always love, but never get any love in return.This is a never ending chain of misery which does not end between the two and it spoils both their lives and things never resolve all their lives.It is very frustrating and depressing situation for the two people involved and even more depressing is the fact that nothing can be done about it. Both are married so they have to live with each other and because they have kids they can’t leave each other even more, henceforth they have no choice but to live together in this loveless marriage and live a life of sadness and misery throughout their lives.

   Any woman would understand what it is to be spurned in love as if she loves someone and she is loved by her partner in return then only she will understand a woman’s plight who is not  loved in return.She can very well imagine that if one fine day her husband stops loving her, then she will know what it is to not be loved.She will feel blessed that her husband loves her as the feeling of not being loved nearly kills that person.

   The worst part is that when you love the person completely and you don’t get love in return then you are really at a loss as to where you are at fault and what you should do to turn things around, but when you cannot change anything then it is better to resign yourself with your fate and take respite in the love of your children and doing other things that you love to do. God plays a very important role in this person’s life as he comforts him and makes him feel content with life even if he does get the love he wants.

  Henceforth a person should be patient and live a life of contentment no matter how many adversities he or she faces as there are many who face even more adversities than you do, so we should thank God and live a positive life and accept things as they are and if they change according to you, then well and good, but if they don’t, then it is better that you turn your attention towards other important things in your life and still live a life of contentment.

Helpless

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Has anyone among you felt helpless?I know many among you will say yes, as this feeling is universal and many people feel helpless at some time or the other in their lives.I have felt helpless when I am faced with the same situation again and again emotionally.I have felt this way when I am not able to change anything no matter what, according to my wish.The feeling of helplessness is so overpowering that I feel lost and totally powerless and desperate.I have felt this way many times over and no matter how much I pray or try to turn things in my favor, I am not able to do so, as things are out of my control and they don’t change no matter what I do.

  I feel emotionally drained and lost as I have been in this situation countless times and the feeling of being lesser than someone is very demeaning and emotionally draining.I have felt helpless when I try to convince someone regarding some of my actions and the other person is not convinced and refuses to agree to my viewpoint, then it becomes very frustrating and irritating for me.I agree that it is initially confusing for a third person to understand what I am saying, but those among you who have a close one who refuses to understand your point of view in various situations, will surely know what I am trying to say.

   This close one can be your husband, your sister or brother or even for that matter your child.It can be anyone and when you don’t agree with them mentally then it is very frustrating and irritating not only for you but for that person as well.When you have an argument with your husband and he refuses to understand your viewpoint, you feel frustrated and helpless as you try your best to make him understand but, he sticks to his egoistic viewpoint and refuses to budge.The wife has a tough time if this situation gets repeated time and again.She feels lost, unwanted and neglected.Any wife would feel that way if she is made to feel lesser than the other and she is always proved wrong even though she is right.

   When two individuals come together especially in marriage then, it is essential that they understand each other’s viewpoint and respect each other in every situation, but if due to immaturity and ego problems the husband does not understand the wife then the wife feels helpless and lost.The situation can be vice-versa if the wife is uncaring and egoistic and she refuses to understand her husband’s viewpoint.

  The feeling of helplessness is very frustrating and suffocating and all of you who are reading this can very well understand what I am trying to say.When you face a deadlock with your partner and he or she refuses to budge from his viewpoint or abstain from certain behaviour, then there is no choice in front of you but feel helpless.In a marriage if you feel this way where your viewpoints are not welcomed then you seem to be caught in a quagmire of sorts.

   You cannot opt out of the marriage due to kids and you certainly are not a person who will look forward to having an extra-marital affair, as you are person of principles, so there you are, again left with that overpowering feeling of helplessness.Those women who are wise shake away this feeling of helplessness by talking things out and come on a middle path with their hubbies, while others just resign with their fate.

   The feeling of helplessness crops up also when you face your parent who disagrees with you most of the time and you keep mum in various situations just for the peace of the house.The child is always at the receiving end when it comes to bearing up with the wishes of the parent,He or she cannot say much in front of the parent if he does not  agree to any viewpoint, as he is helpless in front of the respect he feels for his parent.Whenever a parent and a child argue the child has to submit to the parents wish especially in Indian families and if the parent is trying to stress himself on a girl-child then it becomes even more evident that the child has to subdue herself and bow to the wishes of her father or mother and try to maintain peace in the house.

  Another very painful situation of helplessness crops up when an elder sibling who is seemingly more powerful than the younger sibling, tries to impose his or her views and wishes on the younger sibling.Here again the younger sibling gets this feeling of helplessness in many situations as he or she is unable to convince his brother or sister in a given situation and has to step down and agree to his elder sibling and go according to his wish even if he or she does not want to.

  Helplessness is an overpowering feeling and it really weakens you not only mentally but emotionally as well.This feeling makes you feel so desperate that no matter how much you pray hard and ask God, that why is it you and only you and not anyone else.I can assure you that this is the most saddening feeling anyone can ever have as I have felt it many times and whenever I feel helpless, I look up to God and ask him that why me, why am I subject to so much neglect and  desperation and I get only one answer, that, have patience and look around you and you will see people who are more desperate than you, so thank your stars as to where you stand and try to be content with the way things are.

  Therefore I suggest to all of you who are feeling helpless to calmly have a look around you and then you will find countless examples of people who are much more troubled than you are and then you will feel more blessed than anyone.It will not only elevate your position, but it will also give you a moral boost and you will feel better in the days to come.

Just before going on a Trip.

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I am travelling tomorrow and I am pretty excited about it.Anyone would be excited and I am more excited as I would be holidaying with my family without any other person with me.I mean to say that at times I have to travel for holidays along with some relations, and to be frank I don’t enjoy them at all as I am not able to be free and comfortable in their presence.All those of you who are surrounded with family when they holiday, can very well understand what I am trying to say and because I will holiday alone I am really happy.

   I was earlier a little worried due to a health problem but even that is solved and now I am really relieved that I will be able to enjoy a lot over there.I am going to a hill station and there it will be cooler than here, so I am carrying woollens, now you will say that isn’t that obvious, but I don’t know why but I am feeling like sharing everything over here.

  Actually from the time I have started blogging I feel the strong need to share my little joys and worries over here.It is fun.I feel that I am talking to a large audience and when they read my stuff, I feel overjoyed and blessed that all of you people are reading about my little joys and worries.Till yesterday I was worried, but now I am relaxed and I know I will have a fun time.

  Just before going for a trip there is a throbbing excitement, as to what will happen and what all will we do over there and if we have kids it is more exciting as they keeping barging into the house and say happily that, “Mamma, why don’t we carry this and why don’t we take that to the trip?”This entire palpitation in the air makes the whole environment of the house very exhilarating and full of joy.

  In my home I am the more organised and planned one who does things more systematically and so I prepare for the trip in a better way than my family.Naturally I have to pack for the three of us, me and my two kids, so I have to plan properly.I have to take care of the clothes, medicines snacks and other stuff and when I am done I still feel that there is more to be done.A road trip require more preparation, so I have to plan more.

  Anyways now that I have packed everything I am looking forward to waking up early and then getting ready and speeding off, out of town and having all the fun I want to.I am feeling happy at the same time a little worried as to whether everything will be fine at the trip.You really don’t know at times you can face sickness of a child or any injury and that spoils the mood of the holiday.

  I remember once when we had gone for a trip we had the scare of our lives when the bathroom glass sliding crashed just near my kids, when they were in the bathroom.It was scary, but my daughter was saved with  just a few cuts on her hands.Another time I banged my foot against a hidden root under the sand on a beachside and the cut was quite deep and there were still a few days of our holiday. You won’t believe it that I continued with the trip by just bandaging my cut with band-aid!

  Accidents like these happen but the positive part of a holiday is that besides all the odds we all have fun and enjoy holidays.So, all of those among you who might be going out for holidays this coming week just enjoy and have fun as I will and everything will be fine.It is the spirit with which you go on a trip that matters,rest everything will be fine.

 

Mind versus Heart(in Relationships)

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 When I say mind versus heart then I am really talking of the conflict between these two ruling factors in our lives.Our mind controls out thoughts and speech and we use our mind for various tasks in our day to day lives.Whereas the heart plays a crucial role in deciding who we like and who we don’t.In a larger sense our heart controls our emotions and how we feel towards any situation.When we have to decide as to who we should follow more in our lives, our minds or our hearts, then it becomes very difficult as we are confused in many situations as to who is right.

  Our minds are extraordinary and are capable of doing amazing tasks in many situations.Scientifically our minds have such power that there is no equivalent in this universe, but when it comes to taking decisions in our day to day life, our minds take decisions in a very categorical manner, they don’t analyse the pros and cons of any situation and the repercussions of a decision.If there is situation where a particular decision has to be taken in an instant, it takes the decision and little does it know what would happen next.

  I am talking of those decisions which are taken by our minds and not our hearts in which relations break and the persons involved in these relations are badly affected but, because the decision is more mental rather than emotional, so the person himself does not know about it. I know it is difficult for you understand what I am trying to say as it is confusing.

    I remember when the man in a relationship repeatedly shuns his wife and ill-treats her, not because he hates her, but because his mind felt that he should rule her in every sense. He was a very egoistic man and he always thought that if demeaned her and controlled her mind he would be able to control his relationship with her, but how wrong the husband was, little did he know that the heart rules in this kind of relationship and no matter what, if he showed some love towards her, she would not need to be controlled.This is what I want to say, the mind is the ruler in those people’s lives, who consider their emotions to be something which weakens them, whereas actually this is not so.

   Men are more of the mental beings as compared to women, for whom their emotions carry immense importance.A woman’s heart can be won by soft words and whispering little nothings in her ear which make her feel special.I know this sounds unreal in these times but ask those women whose men are romantic,  ask them how they feel when their husbands surprise them and love them unconditionally, they will tell you how it feels.

  These women are on cloud nine when they are with their husbands and they feel so secure and loved because of their husbands as they feel it, they feel their love at all times. It is this feeling in the heart that I am talking about.This rules a relationship based on love.The heart rules the mind in this kind of relationship and they forgive and forget mistakes very soon as they love each other dearly.

   Now you will ask me that this is the situation in a man and woman relationship where, earlier the mind ruled the heart where the man shunned his wife, as he wanted to control her mentally and in the other situation the man and woman loved each other dearly, so the heart ruled the mind, but what about other situations.Well I am coming there.

   See there are various situations where maybe you are arguing with a friend or a parent and you really don’t know where this argument will take you so, just for peace’s sake you call it quits and forget and forgive, so that is situation where the mind has ruled the heart.

  In yet another situation where again there is a show off between a mother and a daughter and after a long argument the mother finally keeps quiet and hugs her daughter.In this situation you can say that the heart ruled the mind as the mother did not want to further upset her daughter.

  When we try to analyse the tussle between the mind and the heart we are at a loss as to who is right and who is wrong as at times the mind is right and at other times the heart is right.Henceforth the argument rests and we can safely say that both are equally important in relationships and one should maintain a good balance between the two in order to have a good life.

  If a man is both mentally and emotionally strong, then he can  face the tests and vagaries of this world in a way, such that he will not have to look at any other person for support.He will be able to weigh he pros and cons of every situation and take decisions accordingly.He will thus be an asset for all those around him and he will be valued and respected by one and all.

Husbands(Poem)

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Husbands are a joy to be with.

They can give you all the joy that they have given birth,

They are the apples of the eyes of their wives,

As those wives cannot survive without them in their lives,

They are are the cutest friend for any woman,

They can  also be a woman’s worst demon,

If he does not love her ever,

And troubles her and creates problems for her forever,

A husband is a joy to be with,

If he provides his wife with all the joy and mirth,

What should a wife do if he turns out to be a demon,

Then she should not put up with the hell because of this demon,

And bravely walk out of the marriage,

Without a second thought about her marriage,

A husband is a companion,friend and partner,

Who loves his wife completely as he is her pair,

But, if he does not love her and ill-treats her often,

Then, he does not deserve her company and her love as he can sometimes be the cause of her to be in her coffin,

A husband gives joy only until he loves his wife,

But he is like a stuck bone when in the marriage there is strife,

He loves is kids and makes his family,

His wife he and his kids together make the family lovely,

Why are husbands a constant source of irritation for wives,

Well, they try to impose themselves on their wives,

This irritation can be removed if they talk out their problems,

 Then  there can be amicable solution to all this humdrum,

A husband is a joy to be with,

If he is a friend to the core and is always forthwith,

The success of any marriage depends not only on the husband,

But it also depends on the wife of the husband,

If she is tolerant in the relationship,

Then there will always be a lot of friendship,

So,if you are having a good husband consider yourself lucky,

As there are many woman struggling with husband who yucky!

 

God

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 God.When I think of him I get a very spiritual feeling, I feel one with him and I feel so close to him that at times when I am troubled or disturbed, I feel that I should be with him rather than live in this world which is riddled with problems. Every person is caught up in his own web of complications and troubles.For each of them God has different meaning but, for me he is a friend, mentor, guide and companion.He has always helped me in difficult situations and I have always been blessed with his love as I know that he will be by my side even if the whole world leaves me to be alone.

    In this world when the people came into this world and from the time when feelings and thoughts towards God have been recorded, each person has experienced a different feeling towards God.For some he is the almighty and they fear him and for others he is symbol of religion, while for others he carries a meaning which only they can understand as they treat God as a tool to rule the world(for example the terrorist wings).

  God in various sects is feared and in many areas of the world such as China and India, God is prayed to in a way such that they know that he will be their guide and helper in every situation.For them God means religion especially in India. In India the belief in God comes with  a lot of strappings, like the performing of various customs and rituals on various festivals.

   God has a majestic presence in all these believer’s hearts and they glorify him every moment of their lives.Every custom and every ritual they perform in the name of God is so holy and spiritual that they feel blessed and redeemed by his presence at each moment of their existence.Those people who are spiritually inclined will understand what I mean when I say that they feel God’s presence in their lives for every moment and they can also experience the miracles of God on many occasions of their lives.

  When I talk of miracles I mean real miracles which happen in our day to day lives.I am a strong believer in God, as you might have guessed by now and I have definitely experienced God’s miracles in  a way in which none of you cannot even imagine!God has played an important role in my life and my relation with him started at a very  young age, when was just nine years of age.A teacher of mine actually performed a miracle with the help of her prayers and left me spell bound when I experienced the presence of God for the first time.

  It was a normal day at school and I had been in school for about one or two hours, when I suddenly experienced a severe pain in my stomach.I was in tears and I was lying down on my school bench in my class and crying, then my teacher noticed me weeping and came near me and asked me what was wrong,when I told her that my stomach was paining, she calmly sat down next to me and held my hand and prayed, after a few moments the pain just vanished and never came back.I was so surprised and astonished that I did not know what to say, but that was the start of my belief in God.

  I started praying in the church everyday and I used to offer a flower each day and I can’t explain how peaceful I felt when I was in the church, i felt like as though he was communicating with me and quietly whispering in my ear some things which otherwise I was not able to understand,  but the very feeling that he was around me gave a lot of peace and tranquility.

  That is the magnificence of God, no person can actually say what or who God is, but we can all feel his presence in our lives this way or that way.Some say that God is a supernatural power while for others he is a deterrent from any evil deed as they fear him,whoever he is, his presence is there in one and all and he is the binding force of humanity.

  There are basically four main beliefs that people have in this world, some say that he present in form of Allah and they don’t have a distinct appearance of him, while for others he is Jesus Christ, who has come to relieve them from all their troubles and yet for others he has thousands of physical shapes such as in India.Here you will see a different kind of God in each state, each God looks entirely different and they are prayed to, in different ways.Then there is Jainism and Buddhism, who again believe that God does not have an appearance.

   In recent times God and for that matter even from quite a long time, God has different meaning especially for the Muslim religion.I am referring to those muslim fanatics who misuse religion for their own evil means and perform terrorist activities in the name of religion.They feel that it is their prime duty to enhance their religion and promote it even if it harms the sentiments of other religions.Many terrorist outfits brain-wash youngsters to do harmful deeds in the name of religion and this kind of development is really harmful for humanity, but sadly no one can do anything about it.

   No matter how you pray to God and no matter in which form you believe that he is, he is there and existing and it is surprising that for every religion God means the same thing, that is that is that he is the almighty who has created us and it s our belief in him that sustains us and gives us the strength to bear up with difficulties and problems with a smiling face, as we know that  he will help us out no matter what.The divinity of God is unquestionable and no one can clearly pin-point that this is God, but he is there and will always be there for us forever.

  For me God has always been a friend and mentor who has helped me in my difficult times and not only in difficult times he has been by my side when I have been very happy too and I have always thanked him for everything I have got in my life.He has given me everything and I know he will always help me whenever I need him.

  

Husbands(Poem)

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Husbands are a joy to be with.

They can give you all the joy that they have given birth,

They are the apples of the eyes of their wives,

As those wives cannot survive without them in their lives,

They are are the cutest friend for any woman,

They can  also be a woman’s worst demon,

If he does not love her ever,

And troubles her and creates problems for her forever,

A husband is a joy to be with,

If he provides his wife with all the joy and mirth,

What should a wife do if he turns out to be a demon,

Then she should not put up with the hell because of this demon,

And bravely walk out of the marriage,

Without a second thought about her marriage,

A husband is a companion,friend and partner,

Who loves his wife completely as he is her pair,

But, if he does not love her and ill-treats her often,

Then, he does not deserve her company and her love as he can sometimes be the cause of her to be in her coffin,

A husband gives joy only until he loves his wife,

But he is like a stuck bone when in the marriage there is strife,

He loves is kids and makes his family,

His wife he and his kids together make the family lovely,

Why are husbands a constant source of irritation for wives,

Well, they try to impose themselves on their wives,

This irritation can be removed if they talk out their problems,

 Then  there can be amicable solution to all this humdrum,

A husband is a joy to be with,

If he is a friend to the core and is always forthwith,

The success of any marriage depends not only on the husband,

But it also depends on the wife of the husband,

If she is tolerant in the relationship,

Then there will always be a lot of friendship,

So,if you are having a good husband consider yourself lucky,

As there are many woman struggling with husband who yucky!

Drowsiness

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 Today I am feeling very lazy and drowsy.I am feeling like this since morning.This is a very sweet yet irritating feeling and the way that I am feeling, is pulling me down and I feel so lazy, that I don’t even feel like getting up and drinking a glass of water.I am kind of enjoying this feeling and I know when I will get a chance I will fall asleep in no time.

   Drowsiness can be caused due to various reasons and I think the present state in which I am is due to the fact that maybe I might not have slept well.This feeling leaves me feeling like a zombie wherein I am not awake and not asleep.It makes me very dull and forlorn.It also generates a strong feeling of depression as well. I feel useless and unwanted but, I know that it is temporary and will go in a day or two.But,till it lasts it engulfs my senses in a strange way.

  I have met many people who have felt drowsy like this on numerous occasions and they have also felt like this due to many reasons, maybe they had worked too hard the previous day or they might not have got the required rest that they wanted.I have had this feeling not very often but I feel that this feeling can be shrugged off when you have a hot steaming cup of tea or coffee or you go for a  stroll.Both these remedies refresh you and invigorate you.

  In a way I love this feeling as I tend to enjoy it when I feel that I need rest, but if I have to do an important job, then this feeling is a stumbling block and it hinders my path.One should be alert and smart when he is doing his daily tasks, such as working in the office or doing any other job, henceforth it is necessary that if he is feeling drowsy he should try and overcome it and then leave for work.

  Drowsiness can be overcome in many ways as I have mentioned above but, I feel that this is the way our body refers to the fact that it has not got enough rest so, it needs to be refreshed and rejuvenated.Once the body gets its rejuvenation, it bounces back out of drowsiness and is alert once again.So,enjoy your drowsiness if you can and come put of it if you have to.

Sleepy

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I am so sleepy just now that I want to go back to bed, I have to drop the kids to school and only then I can get some time for myself.You what is funny is that during the day time I am not able to sleep no matter what.So,I guess I have to just bear up with this present feeling of sleepiness.

Marriage

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Marriage is an institution which is the very basis of humanity.Every person who comes into world enjoys the outcome of a marriage, that is the person is able to enjoy the co- existence of his parents and enjoy their love as they live together due to the fact that they are married.A person gets married as he feels that he needs companionship in his life and he has to fulfil his physical needs as well in a way which is socially acceptable.

   Marriage is the union of two souls in way which is really harmonious and when they unite mentally,physically and emotionally the outcome is the beginning of a relationship which lasts for a lifetime.Marriages take place in heaven and this is a belief which is believed by one and all.A man and a woman unite in the most beautiful way in the form of marriage.They live together by loving each other every moment and they understand each other’s desires and dreams.This correlation between each other is so sweet that when they come together, not only them but the people around them are also deeply affected by their peaceful union.

  How does a person choose a person who he or she will live with throughout his life?Well this is a very personal thing and when a person reaches an age where he is mature enough to choose a life partner for himself, he chooses a partner who suits his choices and who according to him is the best choice for him.A man or a woman always cherishes various different dreams for his future life partner and when he comes across a person who comes close to his dreams, then he gets married to her and lives a life of contentment with her.

  Marriage is a very crucial juncture in a man’s life and when he or she gets married his life changes totally.He has to think of his partner before taking any decisions in his life and every single thing he does whether it is small or big affects both of them.The most important factor in this union is the fact that they come together because of this fact that they love each other dearly and they have come together only because they love each other.

   When two people love each other then, they are able to live with each other in a very harmonious manner and once they are able to understand each other perfectly, they feel this strong need to have a family which is buzzing with the cackling laughter of their kids.Of course this is most obvious outcome of any marriage but on a personal level I feel that they should start thinking of having a family only when they are comfortable with each other and not only them but, they have adjusted to each other’s families as well.

   Many times I ask myself that what is marriage, but I am at loss of words when I have to express it is words as the relationship is so complex and intertwined in such a way that any person who feels that he can confidently say that, this is the meaning of marriage, I am sure even he will not know the intricacies of this relationship fully.Marriage breeds respect, love, trust, companionship, tolerance, self-realisation, friendship and a host of other things which I cannot pin-point as I am still discovering various aspects of marriage.

  Trust between two partners is essential and the most important ingredient in a marriage.If two people don’t trust each other then there is no point that they live with each other anymore.Trust does not only mean that they should be loyal to each other physically, but trust also means that they should feel that they can trust each other completely when it comes to taking crucial decisions in their lives.Trust also surfaces in their daily life wherein they have to trust each over trivial matters, whether it is in relation to their day to day activities or even in bigger matters such as the upbringing of their kids.

   Trust is a ruling factor in a marriage and when two people trust each other they truly unite not only mentally but emotionally as well.Having faith in your partner also breeds a lot of sense of security in your kids as well.They experience this security as they know that their parents are in agreement which each other and they also feel the sense of security when they don’t see them arguing on petty issues.

  Strife in a marriage happens when the two partners are in total disagreement with each other and things become worse when they stop trusting each other and they blame each other for the difficulties they are facing in their lives.Marriages which fail leave a very bad taste not only in the two partner’s mouth but it affects their close ones also in a big way.The kids experience constant tiffs between the parents and it is a big deterrent for their growth in a healthy manner.

  I would like to stress on this fact that if two people are getting married they should be doubly sure that they can love this person with all their heart.Why I am saying that they should be should be sure of their love for their partner, as, on many occasions during their younger days they might have fallen in love once and due to circumstance and family pressure they were not able to get married to the person of their choice and when they actually get married to another person they are not able to do justice to their marriage as they are not able to forget their first love.

   This kind of situation is very sad for the woman involved who gives all her love to the man who shuns and ignores her as he can never love her with all his heart.She suffers every moment of her life with this man as she cannot get out of this marriage as she has commitments towards her kids and the society and her parents.She cannot deceive her husband also as she loves him a lot,  henceforth she is caught in a quagmire of a difficult situation wherein ther is no outlet, no matter how hard she tries.

  A marriage is a union of two souls and I want to stress this fact, as if among the two of them there is no love then the marriage is not a marriage, it is a compromise and an adjustment rather than a marriage.So,when you are thinking of getting married please be sure that you will love that person completely only then this marriage can be successful.As they say marriages are made in heaven and GOD chooses two people to be together, then I feel that GOD does choose these two people to be together but, these two people have to put in the effort to be together no matter what.

  Only when this happens, a marriage can be successful and such a marriage gives peace to one and all.One secure and happy marriage breeds goodwill among all his known people and sets an example for everyone around them.But when we talk of the two people involved, it is their sacrifice and goodwill that has resulted in this union and only they can make this relationship successful.

  A marriage is no doubt  union of two souls but it is also a coming together of two people who unite spiritually, physically and mentally and their offspring also believe in the institution of marriage and when they get married,  even they will bring about a lot security in society.It is a never ending chain of events.One successful marriage breeds another and so a strong successful society is formed.